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Theme Activity after Tazkeer: “Upper Hand Through Iman” – Reflection & Resilience in Action

🔹 Objective:

To help the retreat attendees internalize the Tarbiyah theme verse (Qur’an 3:139) by:

• Reflecting on moments of perceived failure or grief
• Recognizing Allah’s standard of success
• Building resilience and sisterhood through faith-centered scenarios

Tafseer Insight: Qur’an 3:139

This verse was revealed after the Battle of Uhud, a time when the Muslims faced a temporary setback and were emotionally and physically shaken.
Allah reminded them that true success lies not in temporary outcomes, but in their unwavering belief, trust, and obedience to Him.
The verse teaches that even in moments of perceived failure, the believer maintains the "upper hand" through faith (iman), patience (sabr), and sincerity (ikhlas).

Key lessons from the tafseer include:
- Don’t let setbacks lead to despair.
- True believers always have dignity in Allah’s sight.
- Spiritual victory is greater than worldly success.
- Remain firm in faith and connected to the purpose of serving Allah.

🔹 SETUP FOR PARTICIPANTS:

🔸 Total Time: 45–60 minutes

🔸 Group Size: 10–12 participants per group

🔸 Number of Groups: ~25–30 groups

🔸 Materials Needed:

• 25–30 digital group packets (roleplay scenario + reflection prompts)
• Reflection cards or handouts
• Pens for everyone
• Posters/flipcharts for key points per group (optional)
• Mic for rotating facilitators or floaters
  

🟢 STEP 1: Group Formation & Orientation (5 min)

• Break participants into pre-assigned or random groups of 10–12.
• Appoint a Group Lead and Timekeeper for each table (can be self-selected).
• Distribute printed packets (provided below) to each table with instructions.
  

🟢 STEP 2: Reflection & Scenario Roleplay (30 min)

🔸 Each group works through:

1. Reflection Prompt (Written + Optional Sharing – 10 min):
   “Share a moment where the world saw failure, but you gained spiritually.”
    “What does having the upper hand through faith mean to you?”
   
2. Roleplay Scenario (15 min):

• Each group receives 1 of 6 sample roleplay scenarios (see below).
• Prepare a 2–3 minute reenactment that shows:

• The challenge
• The spiritual response
• A moment of growth based on Qur’an 3:139
  

3. Group Motto Creation (5 min):

• End by creating a 1-line group motto/duaa rooted in the verse (e.g. “We rise through belief, not results.”)
  

🟢 STEP 3: Showcase & Circle of Impact (10–15 min)

• Select 5–6 groups to present their roleplay or motto.
• Invite 1 reflection from each group:
  “What did this scenario teach you about true success?”
  
• Close the session with a collective recitation of:
  
  لَا تَهِنُوا وَلَا تَحْزَنُوا وَأَنتُمُ الْأَعْلَوْنَ إِن كُنتُم مُّؤْمِنِينَ
  
   “Do not falter or grieve, for you will have the upper hand, if you are true believers.” (Qur’an 3:139)
  

🔹 ROLEPLAY SCENARIOS (to be rotated among tables):

1. “Passed Over for Leadership”
   A sister worked hard and is overlooked for a leadership role. She begins to doubt herself. Her friend reminds her of the verse and helps reframe her goal and ensure she understands leadership roles should not be sought.
   
2. “Unseen Effort”
   A sister does all the behind-the-scenes work for an ICNA event but gets no public recognition. Someone praises only the stage speaker. How does she stay sincere? What are some tazkiyyah opportunities in this scenario?
   
3. “Criticism After Mistake”
   A sister made a small error in a public talk. A few attendees later mocked her. She’s embarrassed but reminded that her sincerity is what matters to Allah. How should the sisters have provided constructive feedback?
   
4. “Event Flopped”
   Despite weeks of planning, their halaqah had very low turnout. The team is discouraged but reflects on intention and impact beyond numbers. What are some positive outcomes that can come from this?
   
5. “Ignored for Her Simplicity”
   A sister is not as articulate or social, so others overlook her. Her quiet consistency reminds the team what true strength looks like in Allah’s eyes. Can you think of any sister in your own group who resembles the person in this scenario?
   
6. “Spoken Ill Of”
   A sister finds out that others are gossiping about her intentions. She stays quiet, makes duaa, and finds comfort in this verse. What are ways to educate the sisters who are gossiping? How should you frame the conversation to raise awareness for modern unintentional ways of gossiping and the serious consequences of such an act (as mentioned in Quran) and how to stay away from it?
   

Upper_Hand_Through_Iman_Workshop_Packet.docx

🏠 Scenarios for Family Life Application

1. Underappreciated at Home

You cook, clean, and manage the household daily, but your efforts are rarely acknowledged. You feel invisible and unappreciated. How do you remind yourself that Allah sees all and that your reward lies with Him?

2. Teen Daughter Pulls Away

Your teenage daughter has become distant. She doesn’t want to talk or attend family Islamic programs. You feel rejected and question your parenting. How do you respond with faith, patience, and trust in Allah’s timing?

3. Difficult In-Laws

Your in-laws often make hurtful comments or criticize how you raise your kids. You try to keep the peace but feel emotionally drained. How can you preserve your dignity while still earning the “upper hand” in Allah’s sight?

4. Financial Struggles

You and your spouse are facing a difficult financial period. You’re doing your part with sabr, but others are judging your family’s situation. How do you hold your head high and keep your intentions firm?

5. Unfair Comparisons

You constantly hear relatives praise other siblings for their careers, looks, or children. You feel left out and inadequate. How do you remind yourself that your worth is not based on dunya standards?

6. Raising Kids with Islamic Values

You’re doing your best to raise your children with faith and modesty, but society and extended family push back. It feels like an uphill battle. How do you stay strong and hopeful?

7. Grieving a Loss

Your family has lost a loved one, and while others are moving on, you’re still grieving. Some tell you to “just have sabr,” but it feels too hard. How can this verse help you heal without giving up?

8. Spouse Doesn’t Support Your Dawah Work

You’re passionate about ICNA Sisters or other community work, but your spouse sees it as a distraction. How do you remain committed without letting it create division?

Quran_3_139_Family_Life_Scenarios_Handout.docx

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Activity Title: “The Confidence Circle – Dawah in Real Life”^[a]

Objective:

Equip participants with real-world dawah communication skills through interactive, scenario-based skits that build confidence, encourage wisdom (hikmah), and emphasize sincerity in relationship-building.

Structure:

Split participants into small groups (3–5 people). Each group receives a unique scenario and has 10–15 minutes to plan a short 3–4 minute skit showing:

• How to initiate a conversation
• How to engage wisely (with hikmah)
• How to build connection and sincerity
• Optional: how to tie in social media or community involvement
  

Then each group presents their skit. Follow with a brief debrief/discussion.

Scenarios:

1. “Food Conversation”
   While at a family or community event, someone asks why you don’t eat pork or why you pray before meals. Use this as an opportunity for dawah—without sounding preachy.
   
2. “Family Doubts”
   A younger cousin expresses confusion about Islam after watching a TikTok video misrepresenting a hadith. Show how to respond with patience, hikmah, and sincerity.
   
3. “Curiosity About Hijab”
   Someone you know sees you adjusting your hijab and asks, “Why do you wear that?” Demonstrate a confident, gentle response that explains both faith and purpose.
   
4. “Community Service Dawah”
   During a local volunteer event, someone comments on your dedication and asks what motivates you. Show how dawah can happen naturally through character and service.
   
5. “Social Media Trends”
   A friend sends you a viral post or reel mocking Islam or Muslims. Show how to respond thoughtfully and turn it into a learning moment—without arguing.
   
6. “Group Chat Scenario”
   Someone in a family or friends group chat posts an offensive meme or joke about religion. Show how to respond firmly, respectfully, and in a way that keeps the door open for future conversations.
   
7. “Masjid Encounter”
   You notice a new or less active sister at the masjid looking unsure or left out. Demonstrate how to initiate a sincere and welcoming conversation that may lead to meaningful sisterhood.
   
8. “ICNA Sisters Booth at a Local Fair”
   You’re helping at an ICNA Sisters table during a public fair. A passerby stops and asks, “What is this group about?” Show how to introduce ICNA Sisters and Islam clearly, warmly, and confidently.
   

Debrief Discussion Prompts (after each skit):

• What was done well?
• How could the message be shared more effectively?
• Was hikmah (wisdom) used in timing and tone?
• How can this be applied in our own lives?

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Outdoor Physical Activities for the Buddy System

🧩 1. Trust Walk (Grow – Nurturing the Relationship)

• How it works: One partner is blindfolded while the other guides them through a simple outdoor obstacle course (e.g., around cones, trees, or park benches).
• Objective: Builds trust and emphasizes clear, calm communication.
• Reflection Prompt: “How did it feel to rely on someone else? How does this reflect our trust in Allah and each other?”
  

🪢 2. Giant Human Knot (Connect – Building Bonds)

• How it works: A larger version of the indoor activity. Form groups of 10–12 people, standing in a circle, reach across and grab hands. Without letting go, work as a team to untangle the knot.
• Objective: Enhances communication, patience, and physical teamwork.
• Tip: Set a time limit for added excitement.
  

🏹 3. Buddy Treasure Hunt (Succeed – Collaboration & Spiritual Growth)

• How it works: In buddy pairs, follow a clue-based scavenger hunt that leads to Quranic ayat, hadith, or values of the buddy system (e.g., trust, empathy, listening).
• Objective: Encourages problem-solving, walking/trotting, and reflection.
• Closing Task: Each pair reflects on how one clue reminded them of their bond with their buddy or with Allah.
  

⚽ 4. “Team Challenge Course” (Grow & Succeed)

• How it works: Set up multiple stations such as:

• Balance walk (plank or rope),
• Object carry (carry water balloons or eggs in spoon),
• Team relay (hand off a message or Quranic ayah).

• Objective: Builds collaboration and problem-solving skills.
• Variation: Each task station includes a reflective question.
  

🧠 5. Values Tag (Connect & Reflect)

• How it works: Modify freeze tag. When tagged, a person freezes and can only be unfrozen if someone answers a reflection question (e.g., “What’s one quality you value in a friend?”).
• Objective: Combines physical activity with bonding and emotional expression.
  

🧎🏽‍♀️ 6. Salah Relay (Spiritual Connection + Movement)

• How it works: Use stations that represent the positions of salah. Each buddy pair races (respectfully) through positions while reciting or reflecting together (can also use dua stations).
• Objective: Bond over shared acts of worship and teamwork.
  

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Activity Title: “Mission: Organized!”

Objective:

Help participants develop practical skills in:

• Organizing multiple responsibilities (personal, family, ICNA Sisters, school/work)
• Managing time so nothing gets neglected
• Taking effective meeting minutes in an Islamic organizational setting
  

Structure:

1. Split into Small Groups (3–4 people per group)
2. Each group is given a realistic ICNA Sisters scenario
3. Groups must:

• Create a plan for organizing the responsibilities mentioned
• Assign roles and show how they’d prevent neglect of any task
• Designate a note-taker to take brief mock meeting minutes
• Share their plan with the larger group

4. Debrief to reflect on real-life application and discuss tips and tools (e.g., Google Calendar, Trello, notebooks, WhatsApp reminders)
   

Scenarios:

Scenario 1: Monthly Halaqah & Family Life

You’re responsible for organizing this month’s ICNA Sisters Halaqah and also helping your family prepare for an upcoming wedding. You also have personal Qur’an goals.

Your task: Create a weekly plan that allows you to:

• Delegate Halaqah logistics (flyers, reminders, speaker follow-up)
  
• Fulfill family duties
  
• Maintain personal worship goals
  
  Bonus: Record a 5-minute “meeting” with your group and take minutes on updates and next steps.
  

Scenario 2: Regional Workshop Planning

You’re on the ICNA Sisters planning team for an upcoming regional workshop and must handle:

• Coordinating food
• Contacting speakers
• Managing your school or work assignments
  
  Your task: Prioritize and schedule responsibilities across the next two weeks.
  
  Bonus: Prepare a meeting minute template and simulate a quick planning call. Assign someone to record and present the minutes.
  

Scenario 3: Volunteer Overload

You’re volunteering for both ICNA Sisters outreach and community relief, while also leading a youth halaqah. You’re feeling overwhelmed and fear you’re dropping the ball.

Your task: Create a weekly planner and list what to:

• Keep doing
• Delegate
• Pause or adjust
• *** Bonus: Draft an email/text to request help or adjust responsibilities in a respectful, professional manner.
  

Debrief Questions:

• What made your plan realistic and sustainable?
• How did you decide what to delegate?
• What tools or habits help you stay on track?
• What did you learn about effective meeting minutes?
  

Materials to Provide:

• Sample meeting minutes template
• Printable weekly planner or time-blocking sheet
• List of free organizing tools/apps

ICNA_Sisters_Skills_Development_Handout.docx

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Activity Title: “Check Your Intention: From Perfection to Connection”

Goals:

• Help participants reflect on how to work with difficult people or those they may not get along with
• Reconnect participants to the purpose of their work (dunya vs. akhirah)
• Highlight the importance of ihsan (excellence) without losing sincerity, love, and teamwork
• Reinforce emotional intelligence and intentional teamwork in Islamic settings (like ICNA Sisters)
  

Activity Format: Group Scenario + Personal Reflection + Team Challenge

Step 1: Group Scenario Discussions (15 min)

Split into small groups. Each group receives a different ICNA Sisters-based conflict/teamwork scenario.

They must:

• Discuss the challenges in the scenario
• Identify how they would handle it with hikmah (wisdom) and sincerity
• Share what the Islamic response should look like (with intention, love, and team spirit)
  

Scenarios:

1. “She Takes Over Everything!”
   You’re part of a planning committee for an ICNA Sisters regional event. One sister constantly takes over all responsibilities, dismisses others’ ideas, and makes you feel invisible.
   
2. “Professionalism vs. Sisterhood”
   You’re leading a halaqah group and are focused on logistics and perfection. A few sisters stop attending—saying it feels like a job, not a bonding experience. What’s missing?
   
3. “Silent Treatment”
   Another volunteer clearly avoids working with you. They don’t respond in chats and make excuses to not be on the same sub-team. How do you continue to work with sincerity?
   
4. “The Gossip Loop”
   You overhear someone on your team making negative comments about another sister. How do you respond in a way that maintains your dignity and preserves group unity?
   

Step 2: Personal Reflection Prompt (5–7 min)

Pass out index cards or reflection worksheets.

Ask each participant to answer (privately):

🌙 “Why do I serve in ICNA Sisters? Who is my true audience—people or Allah? Is my goal impact, recognition, or ihsan for His sake?”

💭 “What’s one internal shift I need to make so I don’t lose love and connection while trying to be perfect?”

You can follow this with an optional short journaling duaa:

اللهم اجعل عملي خالصًا لوجهك الكريم

“O Allah, make my efforts sincere for Your noble face.”

Step 3: Team Challenge – “Bond Before Brand” (10–15 min)

Each group now works together to create a team motto or duaa-based affirmation that:

• Encourages teamwork
• Reflects sincere Islamic intention
• Reminds them that sisterhood matters more than control or perfection
  

Then have each group present their affirmation creatively (write it on a poster, or recite with a hand gesture, etc.).

Debrief Prompts:

• How do we balance professionalism with warmth?
• What happens when we lose sincerity or forget who we’re working for?
• What’s one thing you’ll change in how you serve others moving forward?

ICNA_Sisters_Check_Your_Intention_Worksheet.docx

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🌟 MGA Workshop Activity^[b][c] Title: “Legacy in Motion: Passing the Baton of Leadership”

For: ICNA Sisters MGAs

Theme: Leadership continuity, mentorship, and 360° leadership in light of the Qur’an and Sunnah

🧭 Workshop Goals:

• Nurture the next generation of ICNA Sisters leaders.
• Understand leadership as an amanah (trust) and act of service.
• Emphasize the importance of mentorship and sustainable leadership.
• Apply a 360° leadership framework: leading self, leading others, being mentored, and mentoring forward.
  

Suggested 60–75 Minute Activity Plan

🔹 1. Opening Reflection – “What’s in Your Baton?” (10 min)

Prompt-based discussion (circle or pairs):

“What values or habits did a leader in ICNA Sisters pass down to you?”

“What would you want to pass on to the next generation of leaders?”

Post answers on a chart titled “Legacy Words” (e.g. ikhlas, vision, shura, humility, consistency).

🔹 2. 360° Leadership Map (15 min)

Mini-Lesson & Guided Discussion

Present the ICNA Sisters 360° Leadership Model:

• Lead Self – Time management, prayer, sincerity (Surah Al-Asr)
• Lead Others – Shura, encouragement, fairness (Surah Aal-‘Imran 3:159)
• Be Mentored – Humility, learning (Story of Musa & Khidr – Surah Al-Kahf)
• Mentor Forward – Vision, legacy (Prophetic succession, example of Abu Bakr appointing Umar)

In pairs, discuss:

“Which direction in the 360° do I need to focus on most right now as an MGA?”

🔹 3. Legacy Ladder Challenge (20–25 min)

Group Activity

Each small group receives:

• A symbolic “leadership baton”
• A realistic leadership scenario (e.g., “You’re preparing to step down and don’t see someone ready to take your place.”)
• A leadership lens card (Self, Others, Mentorship, Legacy)
  

Task:

• Discuss how to approach the challenge using Qur’anic or Prophetic guidance.
• Share a one-minute summary with the larger group.
• Then, physically pass the baton to another group.
  

🔹 4. Personal Reflection: “My Leadership Will” (10 min)

Each MGA receives a simple worksheet and fills in:

• A value I received from a past ICNA Sisters leader
• One leadership trait I will commit to pass on
• One sister I intend to mentor this year
• A du‘a for those who will carry the work forward
  

🔹 5. Closing Circle – “One Baton, One Line” + Du‘a (10 min)

Stand in a circle. Each sister holds the baton and completes the sentence:

“I will pass the baton of leadership by…”

(e.g., “…nurturing sisterhood,” “…creating space for younger voices,” “…mentoring with mercy.”)

اللهم اجعلنا من القادة الصادقين، الذين يعملون لخدمة دينك بإخلاص، ويزرعون بذور الخير لمن بعدهم.

اللهم اجعل أعمالنا خالصة لوجهك الكريم، واجعلنا هداة مهتدين، نرشد ونُرشد، نُعلّم ونتعلّم، ونبني من بعدنا أجيالًا أقوى إيمانًا وأوسع بصيرة.

اللهم ارزقنا البصيرة في قراراتنا، والثبات في مواقفنا، والحكمة في أقوالنا، والرحمة في تعاملنا.

اللهم اجعلنا ممن يُحسن الخاتمة، ويترك أثراً طيباً، وعلماً نافعاً، وقلوباً متصلة بك وبخدمة دينك.

ربنا تقبل منا إنك أنت السميع العليم، وتب علينا إنك أنت التواب الرحيم.

وصلى الله وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد، وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين.

O Allah, make us among the sincere leaders who serve Your deen with dedication, and who plant seeds of goodness for those who come after us.

O Allah, accept our efforts solely for Your sake, and make us among the guided and guiding — those who teach and learn, and who build future generations with stronger faith and clearer vision.

O Allah, grant us insight in our decisions, firmness in our values, wisdom in our speech, and mercy in our interactions.

O Allah, make us among those who end well, who leave behind a good legacy, beneficial knowledge, and hearts connected to You and in service to Your deen.

Our Lord, accept from us — You are the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. And turn to us in mercy — You are the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.

And may blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his companions.

[a]Dawah activity

[b]MGA activity

[c]English and Urdu Parallel